Monday, April 28, 2014
James 1:12
"Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him."
Saturday, April 26, 2014
3 Months Down and Delays
3 Months Down and Delays
I have been trying to post this blog for a week or 2 and my iPad will not let me....so I don't post. Then a friend asked me what was going on in adoption world since there wasn't a new post.....
And that is it... No news, or at least good news. So here is the news, bad and all. And I am sad. Sad. Sad.
It seems since the fall 2013 everything is slowing down, WAY down in adoption world. There has been few first approvals (thai government approval to adopt) and fewer children coming home to their families. First new DSDW board members, then unfortunately the protests caused more delays and disruptions of all Thai governments, and now, one of the social workers changed positions and 2 new social workers are being trained to process US adoptions. (With 2 SW replacing 1 SW I pray things begin to turn around)
Three months ago, when we were matched, our wait time for travel was 12 months. Current time frames, families have been waiting up to 17 months! A year is too long to wait to bring your child home. A year and a half is outrageous!!!!
I am personally having the most difficult time waiting. At 3 months in, I know, there are so many other families waiting longer than us, I should not feel this bad. (I feel guilty) Some days I wonder if I'm going to be able to endure the wait.
First I need to get all unrealistic expectations out of my thoughts. Beginning with the first timeline, we were told a 9-12 mo wait to bring our child home....now it is doubled! 17mo and counting.
We were expecting bringing home a child around 17mo.old. Our Button is 14 mo old now, it looks like he might be 2 1/2 years old (by the current time frames) when he is home.
Honestly, his age when he is home is not nearly as difficult as the current wait time to bring him home. The wait times are just not fair. I do not want anyone waiting this long to bring their child home. No one should.
Sadly, it is time to send his second care package and I cannot bring myself to even get it together. I should be excited and ready to send it to the day of the 3 month anniversary. I wanted to wait to send it after we received his update, but guess what....delayed! I really don't know why I thought it would be on time NOTHING has been on time so far. So if this package is a week later out then the rest of our care packages will be a week set back. Boo.
The wait is not just affecting me, but our whole family. Jude cannot wait to have her little brother home, yet she has a hard time understanding why we cannot go to Thailand and get him.
One day when my mom was watching her, she was carrying a map of Thailand, and said she
needed to think about Thailand.
Another day before pre school she looked at his picture and told me she missed him (all teary eyed).
And my favorite was the day she told me how she had dreamt of her brother and they were playing together having fun.
I feel I need to say something positive, at a year and a half into our adoption, we were matched in 9 months, 3 months before we were estimated. We are half way through the estimated 30-36 month timeframe to bring our button home.
We met a family thru Holt's Winter Jam concert and have encouraged them to pursue international adoption. Yay!
So this black cloud needs to move on.
Let's pray for peace in Thailand, the adoption board is able to approve families, and all our children are home soon.
I have been trying to post this blog for a week or 2 and my iPad will not let me....so I don't post. Then a friend asked me what was going on in adoption world since there wasn't a new post.....
And that is it... No news, or at least good news. So here is the news, bad and all. And I am sad. Sad. Sad.
It seems since the fall 2013 everything is slowing down, WAY down in adoption world. There has been few first approvals (thai government approval to adopt) and fewer children coming home to their families. First new DSDW board members, then unfortunately the protests caused more delays and disruptions of all Thai governments, and now, one of the social workers changed positions and 2 new social workers are being trained to process US adoptions. (With 2 SW replacing 1 SW I pray things begin to turn around)
Three months ago, when we were matched, our wait time for travel was 12 months. Current time frames, families have been waiting up to 17 months! A year is too long to wait to bring your child home. A year and a half is outrageous!!!!
I am personally having the most difficult time waiting. At 3 months in, I know, there are so many other families waiting longer than us, I should not feel this bad. (I feel guilty) Some days I wonder if I'm going to be able to endure the wait.
First I need to get all unrealistic expectations out of my thoughts. Beginning with the first timeline, we were told a 9-12 mo wait to bring our child home....now it is doubled! 17mo and counting.
We were expecting bringing home a child around 17mo.old. Our Button is 14 mo old now, it looks like he might be 2 1/2 years old (by the current time frames) when he is home.
Honestly, his age when he is home is not nearly as difficult as the current wait time to bring him home. The wait times are just not fair. I do not want anyone waiting this long to bring their child home. No one should.
Sadly, it is time to send his second care package and I cannot bring myself to even get it together. I should be excited and ready to send it to the day of the 3 month anniversary. I wanted to wait to send it after we received his update, but guess what....delayed! I really don't know why I thought it would be on time NOTHING has been on time so far. So if this package is a week later out then the rest of our care packages will be a week set back. Boo.
The wait is not just affecting me, but our whole family. Jude cannot wait to have her little brother home, yet she has a hard time understanding why we cannot go to Thailand and get him.
One day when my mom was watching her, she was carrying a map of Thailand, and said she
needed to think about Thailand.
Another day before pre school she looked at his picture and told me she missed him (all teary eyed).
And my favorite was the day she told me how she had dreamt of her brother and they were playing together having fun.
I feel I need to say something positive, at a year and a half into our adoption, we were matched in 9 months, 3 months before we were estimated. We are half way through the estimated 30-36 month timeframe to bring our button home.
We met a family thru Holt's Winter Jam concert and have encouraged them to pursue international adoption. Yay!
So this black cloud needs to move on.
Let's pray for peace in Thailand, the adoption board is able to approve families, and all our children are home soon.
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